Love? Is there something like that? Are we becoming strong individuals in love? Or are we just dependants? In love aren't we just depending some one for our happiness...?
Just imagine.. Life is ours.. Happiness, is an attitude that we have to maintain towards life... So.. Isn't it complete dependancy when we say that I can be happy only if he/she is there with me...
Just imagine, should we depend on another person for giving our self some happiness.. Nature has blessed us with her tremendous resourse & beauty for us to divert our concentration in case we go off-track!!
In love, you are directly or indirectly depending another person for some kinda happiness.. You say that you are finding happiness & all!! But You are,in some way or the other, depending the other person for some happiness. Aren't you? For truly answering this you have to be courageous enough to think out of your mind set!!!
Just think why do I love one? Just for being happy? Happiness for whom? For me? If that happiness is for me? Then why am not happy when am alone? Why have i got to depend on another person for happiness?
So why depending on another individual for your self to be happy? "Happiness is not the possession of good/desired things. Its just an attitude".
25 comments:
Love...
We cant consider it as a means to find happiness...But there is lots of happiness in love...
Love is like that...if we are completely involved in it, it will be dependent...every one wants to be loved...
But when we realize the truth, we ll learn to Live without Love..
Life is a Game...Love is something which comes naturally :)
Love is blind!! And when people are in love they dont think that they aer depending!!
Cant completely agree!!
I don't know, whether i disagree to whatever u write or u write things which i cant ever agree... However Like ur previous posts, here also I totally disagree with your arguement... U speak as if u dnt knw anytihng abt love.. Love is not abt depending each other.. Its about knowing and understanding each other.. And naturally when u knw and understand someone so deeply.. you will find your happiness automatically... U never depend in love, instead u support ur lover in everything...
So girl.. U shud have a rethinking on ur ATTITUDE towards LOVE...
Keep smiling..
::Jithu::
Jithu,
Am not giving you the conventional meaning of love!! Nor am trying to see what teh whole world thinks about love!! Tell me something..
Before that, pls see the things which i say with a very open mind...
When you are in love, in true love(so called) you feel like seeing the other person 24/7.right? If we dont talk to them, we feel as if something is missing in our life...
We wont be happy even if the whole world is with us, we still something...DOnt we?
And unfortunately(or fortunately) if we are not able to marry them, then its gone!!
We are not able to accept any person... No one seems to keep us happy like the other person did...
Isn't this dependancy? We are completely depending on another person for ourselves to be happy!!
what exactly mean by dependency? He is not depending on his/her love for happiness.. he is finding happiness!! A word changes the entire meaning sweetheart... :)
LOL
::Jithu::
Hello Maaadam,
You got it all wrong!!!!
Lol Terence...
Again I would say.. Right & wrong is strictly personal...
You cant tell that what you think right is right... But ofcourse its is your truth...
So... Its my belief & truth dear!!!
Neena,
Please do not make any philosophical comments...
Remember, you can put an end to any debate saying that it is all about one's perspective..
Terence,
My motive is not a debate, but a want people/my frends to give a thot on these...
Well if you plan for a debate, well i will try to explain my part and my views..
Ofcourse yaar, its completely my view about life... I cant fully accept ur view & nor can u accept mine completely.. Can you? You cant.. well ur comments are a proof for that!!
And regarding love, ofcourse my views are this only ya... I have seen a lot of people who have lost their life in love...
So my aim to make people a bit strong so as to be happy even they are alone...
And even they are in love, dont feel as if it is everything...
I mean to convey that you can be even happy by being alone...I dint mean lonely!!
Lonely is a gfeeling of everything lost!!! But 'alone' means you are happy with yourself..
Please dont be a slave of anything/ any person to give your heart a bit of happiness...
I do see people dependning on someone else to give their heart a bit of happiness...
I am strictly against that!! You have to be completely in bliss even when you are alone... This happens because you dont love yourself!!
Lemme know if you have got to share something else.. Even you can mail me to buddyneens@gmail.com.
Have fun!!
Neenz
[Neena] So my aim to make people a bit strong so as to be happy even they are alone...
[Terence] This sounds good. I appeciate you for this effort.
[Neena] I mean to convey that you can be even happy by being alone
[Terence] Yes you are right. But Neena, this happiness is short lived. We will start feeling some missing piece.
[Neena] I do see people dependning on someone else to give their heart a bit of happiness...
[Terence] I noted you are still using the word "depend". I would like to correct you on this. Actually people are "expecting" love from the soul mate and not depending on them to give love and happiness. I think the word "depend" is for weak-minded people. If there are people who "depend" on someone for love and happiness and i think we need to educate them.
People expecting!!!That is indirectly depending only boss!!
People do not like to think that they are depending on someone.. Very true!! Even i dont like.. But thats true!! Why do u people expect love? So u admiting that human's do not know to love unconditionally?
Its true, i havent come across any person, who loves another person unconditioanlly...
Mom loves her kid jus cos she gave birth to him/her. Not cos of something else.. Or thet expect that their kid will grow up and fulfill all their dreams... will acheive what all they couldnt acheive...
Dont you think? Depend word describes a weak person true!! But its a fact!! We, everyone, directly or indirectly depends on another person, whom they say they love... Jus gie it a deep thought!!
If you say that you dont depend butu you expect then that is also indirect dependancy.. Even you think expectation is good?
http://freethinkers-voyage.blogspot.com/2008/03/but-when-do-people-get-hurt.html
I think then you'll have a lot to shoot if you go through this post!!!
Have fun!!
Neenz
What to say!!! We cant do anything on suicide bombers... because they ben brain washed that way, and they won't accept anything else other than what they were fed by their leaders... similarly, Cant help u in this case.. because u r doing the speach with closed eyes and ears... So... Only request from me, Open up your eyes and see the world... Open up your ears and listen to others..
Keep smiling..
::Jithu::
In that case i would request you to help me with the definition... What happens in love? what is love? You say that you dont depend on love... then please let me know... what the whole process is about? When you get freetime, please let me know Jithu!!!
ping me online.. will clarify all ur doubts.. :) lol
::Jithu::
Neena,
Are you trying to tell that love does not exist at all????
Please clarify..
So Neena,
U dnt LOVE your parents...U never DID... and you wil never do!!
U never loved you friends.. You will never do...
U never loved anyone. and will ever do in ur lifetime...
This is what you are trying to prove here??
Ohh Girl... U r having some serious trouble.. Please.. next time when you come down.. lets go and cunsult someone at NIMHANS!!
This is not madness.. but this is your EGO.. and ur Attitude problem.. Don't worry, we can cure it.. :)
Keep smiling...
::Jithu:::
Well boys!! I find you guys getting Hyper!! Cool!! I like that!!
Terence, me asking you to give th edefinition of love, does that sentence implies that there is no love? :) So help me to define love!!
And Jithu,
Tell me why do u love ur parents? Why do u love ur friends? If ever you had been in love, why did ya fall in love with that person?
Boys I want answer for this, then i will reply for your questions!!!
Cya.
Neena, I am very disspaointed to read the statement:
"Well boys!! I find you "guys" getting Hyper!! Cool!! I like that!!"
You are turning into a cold blooded feminist!!
Boss!!!:)
I am not here to clear what i am.... Now also i havent got any answer on for my question!!
And well, if i called you guys 'Boys', did i do anything wrong... U bellong to that category right? And calling a boy , boy, doesnt imply that i am a feminist!!
buddy, u dont have to be disappointed!! :)
So, i expect an answer to my question!!
Cya.
Neena,
We need to be clear on what you are because you have publicly made a statement
"People say that me & my views/thoughts are ridiculos!! After going through my views, Lemme know!!!"
and talking to an anonymous does not make sense to me at all.
I was just reviewing all your posts and i came to a partial conclusion that you are basically a cynic.
I gave it a second thought too, honestly.
And why are you going for a theoretical definition of love. You cannot put some mandates/rules/definitions on what should be love.
I dont think no lover follows/will follow it.
Love is a never ending topic for discussion as you know.
I dont want to give a quick definition for love to you.
Basically you are exposing your inexperience. Inexperience does not mean non-existence in any angle.
Remember, there are people who loved each other, still loving each other and going to love each other and
they are still living in this world.
You cannot just make a blind statement, rather "Neena's theory of love" and make it a universal truth.
Cynicism is not all a good attitude my dear friend....It will demolish you and leave you no where.
Hope you will get out this cynical mess one day... That day will be the most beautiful day in you life.
Realization that someone loves you very dearly, itself makes your whole life worthwhile!!
CLAP CLAP CLAP!!!
Man..U Said it! Kudos to you... I am sure still, she will come out with lots of arguements.. but dnt mind.. its just for the sake of an arguement.. Neenakkutty... Please.. Grow up...
Keep smiling..
::Jithu::
Hello Neena,
Absconding or what????
Terence, well thanks for your valuable comments boss!! :)
Well, I believe I havent ever mentioned that love doesnt exist!! It does!! Ofcourse the name exist & the action is different!!
Well am not telling about the inexistence of love, but ofcourse the state after you are in 'love'..
Well!! I would like to mention one more staement,boss, this is not a mandatory theory to be followed!!!
Well this is something what I believe & what I have seen/felt & experienced ofcourse!!! And Big Time!! :)
Also learned a lot from it!!! Well my inference were this... Well am ready to change if i find it wrong at any point of time!! :) Not rigid at all!! Quite flexible!! But time being this is what I believe in this vision!!
I dint define love at all!!! But jus asked u to gimme one!!
ANd well boss, i dont seek a validation for my thoughts!!!
Well!!! Am happy with all what i have!!
Many Thanks!!!
:)
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