Decisions

I have wondered a lot how can u just take some major decisions of ur life just in seconds or minutes? Specially some decisions like marrying a person or leaving a person because u guys werent compatible enough. May be just because u dint like the other persons behaviou towards you... Or may be they didnt react the way u expected them to... Aint all this silly stuffs to make decisions??

If u dont feel that the other person is not meeting your expectation, you have to understand that you're expecting too much.... And may be just quiting that would make ur life easier...

I dont know.... I have seen & experienced this situation... The moment you realise that you guys miss the "compatibility" you expected to be there, then a self realisation makes life easier... :)

As in, when u realise that you sibling, who was born & brought up in the same way as u were, have fights with you or have difference in opinion with u, how can u expect someone else, to meet your expectation...? Silly isnt it?

First love aint your greatest love!!!

Well!! Am being very honest here...!! I have heard everybody saying that your first love is your "the big love" in your life...!! I think, that ain't the case every time...!!

It can be a bit special, cos he/she is the person who helped you to feel ur feelings, your ripeness of adolescence, who made u think that you can dream the way u never used to... ;)

From my personal experience & from couple of other experiences, I realized that, even if you first love was special, but u have had better love relationships. And its kind of true that its just cos ur first love wasn't perfect(in some or the other way) that you ended up in a second or further relationships. Isn't right?

And most of us, forget the so called first love when we meet a better person(as per our criteria) or when we pass a relation which involves a satisfactory or overwhelming sex relation...

I never thought that I could forget my first love just like that, but the moment vaava entered my life, my world turned upside down. I became a new person. Vaava was the person of my dreams... And making love has not turned up so beautiful ever since...

:)

True Love

I was too much confused 'how can I define love'? I came across a beautiful sentence this morning by Wayn Dyer "Love is the ability and willingness to allow those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves without any insistence that they satisfy you".

Its true nah? In fact I loved it!!
I was stuck in my life, in very complicated point. There were a lot of helping hands around me... Too much of love & care... I was actually left alone...

Some of my good old acquaintance came to me with sympathy/empathy/love and all... But still wasn't able to choose the correct one. Who will be right? Who will be the one who has got love/care for me? Who is just trying to take advantage of the situation.

One guy, came to me... Told me " dear, I love you so much. I haven't felt this kind of intimacy towards anyone. You're the first person & may be the last one too.But dear, I can only love you..." Well, I couldn't get the correct meaning of it. But later on I understood that he made everything clear. :)

Another wellwisher of mine, came to me: "Listen, I cant see you like this. You used to be a person who had all colours in your life. Who used to live evry moment of your life. Who was so enthusiastic about life. And these made me fall for you. You're one lady whom I loved,with whom I wanted to share my life with. So please cheer up! Life is to Enjoy. Set Targets. Acheive great heights. You're meant for that dear. I care for you. But I'm afraid I cant invite you to my life. When you were not sure about spending your life with me, I made my Targets. I'll be alone, will not marry. But will love you." I must say, I was really stunned. What do I say? I just smiled. :) That was the best thing I could do, i guess.

There came another soul. He was my friend's boyfriend. Thats how we became intimate. Now they broke up. He was so intimately in love with her that he wasn't able to think of any other lady. He was there with me, through my thick & thin. Advising me,encouragin me, scolding me, supporting me. Actually he was a package of friend, teacher, family and god. :)
When he saw me alone; All alone. He tried to pacify me, gimme strength, make me bold enough to face any situation,to the maximum he could. Gave me a feeling that I have a friend in him. ALWAYS!! COME WHAT MAY!!

And when he saw that I was struggling to get over my problems, he knew that I wanted a support. A helping hand. But it has to be some one whom he could trust. Whom he could think will take care of me.

He told me " Buddy, I know that you're going through a phase in your life where you have to have a companion. A person who will not exploit your present situation, who will not take you for granted, who wil love the way you love him. I want you to have the most trust worthy person in the whole world. You're life is so presious. I value you a lot. To offer you, I have got nothing but my LIFE. You're completly aware about my past, how much I was in love with her. I am not able to accept any other woman in her place. But I cant afford to risk your life and give you to a person who might not knwo your value, who might take you for granted, who might might not love you and will come to you for any intension like money,sex etc. You never know. But I Love you. Not as my girl friend. But as my everything. You were the only one who was there to support me when I was left alone. You're the only one with whom am comfy, with whom I can share all my views. My day wont be complete if I don't talk to you for a single day. I would like to take care of you my whole life. But there is no compulsions"

Friends, that were some beautiful sentence that I've every heard in my life. Some words whcih touched me like anything. I'm not in love with him. Neither is he. But we do care for each other.

In this era, where people try to get rid off burdens & headaches,I saw a MAN who was ready to share my tears. I have seen many relations were people just use others for their personal benefits. Some want SEX, others want CASH, Some others want POWER. He was a GENLTLEMAN who is knows to respect every lady, who dont use any one for his benefit. He is a MAN. Thanks my Friend!! :)

Rebel? Who is he?

"Rebel"... Who is that? How come a rebel take birth on the earth's surface? Is a rebel a product of a Rebel dad & Rebel mom? Nope!!! He/She is a person, ofcourse not like everyone (else he/she wouldnt have been called a Rebel)... They find the current settings of the society very odd, strange!! And if they show the courage to tell that openly then there a Rebel is born.. Well I would say that a Rebel is a decent title given.. But sometimes they are branded as Insanes...!! If he/she questions the present status of the society or rules, then the next moment he/she is branded!!

Well!! Every philosopher,sceintist, innovator was branded rebel/crazy/insane and all!!! But then, what happened? They came up with one new turn in the whole worlds life!! Didnt they? Ofcourse they did!! Well!! They didnt bother what people thinks about them.. If they would have thought all those craps, then they wouldnt have made such dashing and wonderful changes in everyones life!!

And what do society do with such people? When they feel that the rules they have built are gonna be broken, are not gonna influence people an more, then they just get rid off this so called Rebel!!

Isnt it the same what happened with Socrates? He was poisned by the so called society for nbeing truthfull, for spreading his courageous thoughts & views among the people!! They felt that the young generation were getting influenced by his teachings & thoughts!!
Then they give him 3 options:

1. Stop giving lessons, stop teaching- which he refused
2. leave this village and go to the next village- which he refused saying that would be cowardice
3. have poison-which he accepted haply saying that he is dieying for a noble cause.

But now!! His speeches, views & thoughts are respected all over the world...

People!! He was a so called Rebel!! Well, atleast I sincerely wish that people dont make a mistake!!

Please people.. Wake up!!!

A poor guy!!!

Hmmm... Let me tell a story of one of dearest friend, who is a professional.. Who has got some peculiar characters... Well!! I haven't seen any other guy/gal like this.. Ofcourse he is unique!! :-)

Mr. Sarvesh & Ms. Gauri were in love with each other and after several chaos in their respective family, they some how convinced their parents for the marriage.. After all, even their parents couldnt find anything wrong in the relationship. Sarvesh was a professional, having his own office and moreover from a good family!! Gauri too a well educated girl, done her masters, daughter of a land lord, who had 2 more daughters... Gauri was very much into studies from her childhood... She used to dream about getting into a job, being independent and all.. And her parents were also so supportive that they allowed her to study to the level she wanted(during 1960s-70s)...

After their wedding, honeymoon period went well(as usual)!! And suddenly Sarvesh's insecurity feeling & ego started increasing... After few month's Gauri was pregnant.. Every one in there faily were so damn happy... Sarvesh's happiness didnt have a boundary...

Finally a baby boy was born... He was named Abhinav... Sarvesh started loving Abhinav like crazy... Even more than Gauri.. He was least interested to talk to Gauri... And if he happened to talk to Gauri, that would be definetly to brainwash her to quit her job...

Well, she stuck to her decision of continuing with her job.. And ofcourse she loved her son too much, but then Abhinav was quite close to his dad bcos Sarvesh used fulfill every wish of Abhinav; no matter what they are... He woulndt even think that whether his deeds are gonna spoil his son & his life..

He was too possessive about his son...Basically, he was using him as a weapon against Gauri.. A kind of cheap revenge... Hmmm.. Well, Gauri was very happy with the dad-son relationship as thats what every mom would ultimately want...

His father made him his slave & Abhinav got addicted to his dad... He couldnt stay for a while without calling his dad... His dad didnt even allow him to ride a bicycle, made it a point to make it clear that abhinav understands it as his love , care & possessiveness.. whereas Sarvesh was making him kind of dependant...

Well, Abhinav was kept away from Gals(or rather he preffered staying away from them). He hated his mother and that too Big Time Well Sarvesh's mom, Gauri's mom in law made it a point to make the most of this situation... But at the same time Abhinav managed to get the attension & sympathy of every single lady he mingled with by telling them the story of his workoholic mom, a mom who never loved him & all!!

This Abhinav got married to Neha who was a professional. This guy entered into his new life with a perspective that all women are like his mom.. So we need to keep them under us... We need show that we are the boss!! He used to call his dad & cry for every silly issue between him & his wife, which was not expected from a man!! More over he didnt want Neha to work.. He made her life hell... Started seeing his mom in her & started fighting/harrassing her physically & mentally for each & every issue...

His mom tried to sort this issue out, but then he wouldnt pick his call or he wouldnt talk ot his mom only...

Finally, friends, let me tell you, he screwed his life Big Time... I really cant see him sad... He went through hell.. I guess he loved her & even she love him... But then this kind of behavior which wasnt expected from such a mature person... They are divorced.... Now, neither he nor she is happy!!!

Well, his dad must be quite happy!!!

Guys & Gals, this is not a cooked up story... This is a story of my dear friend Abhinav(name ofcourse is not the same)